Stop comparing your love-life to other people’s So your ex-boyfriend’s announced his engagement, your best friend keeps talking about the amazing sex she’s having and your sister’s just had twins? So what? ‘It’s only in your own life that you will find what you’re looking for – not in someone else’s seemingly “perfect” relationship,’ says Cecilia d’Felice, relationship expert at match.com. ‘The more we compare, the more we find fault with ourselves. This is not only destructive, but it’s also not real. What works for one couple may be problematic for another. Next time you think the grass is greener, remember the hard work that goes into making a garden beautiful – then focus on your own.