Dr. Nazarre Hines-Starr was exasperated with dating dysfunctional, broke and irresponsible black men. So much so, in fact, that she summarized the men of her life during that period as the “Scumbag Files.”
After years of discontent with African American males, the practicing pharmacist joined an interracial dating website, AfroRomance.com, found a white Jewish man, fell in love and married him. She chronicles her turbulent navigation through dating hell and into the veritable promised land of love in her book with the inflammatory title, Why Every Black Woman Should Marry a Jewish Man: A Book for all Women Looking for the Perfect Alpha Male.
Through her book, which uses funny characters and interweaves poetry throughout, Hines-Starr says she met Michael, the pedigreed, financially successful and never-married Jewish man she eventually married. Hines-Starr illuminates the intangibles she says Jewish men possess — the same areas where she says black men in her life fell woefully short, mainly:
- Jewish men are open culturally rather than down low;
- Self-sufficient, Jewish men don’t need for a woman to take care of his needs and wants;
- Jewish men aspire to, and matriculate through, college;
- They would rather marry before producing a family;
- On average, Jewish men are excellent at financial planning and stability;
- And Jewish males are not hypersensitive about their masculinity.”
Hines-Starr corroborates her sentiments with documented evidence that proves black women need to expand their cultural horizons in order to find a suitable mate:
“According to the U.S. Census Bureau, there were 1.8 million more black women than black men in 2000, and that number has not improved since then. That means that if every black man in America married a black woman today, many women hoping to marry a black man would not make it down the aisle.”
Hines-Star says her novel-type book is filled with anecdotes about her horrid dating life before she met and married her Jewish husband. She said the book is liberally sprinkled with dating and relationship advice and she discusses why white Jewish men are “fantastic lovers, husbands and fathers” who are very compatible with the upwardly-mobile and professional black woman.
What do you think? Will you go out and pick up Hines-Starr’s book, Why Every Black Woman Should Marry a Jewish Man?